Our family has started reading a book by the Mally's called "Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends." We started it right after Christmas and we are not very far into but so far it is a wonderful book. The children laugh every time we read it. The other day I had to take Levi to the chiropractor and I took the five little ones and left the two oldest ones at home. While we were at the office a brother and sister came in and to say the least they were not being very kind to each other. I caught my 2 year old looking very disturbed by this display of anger towards each other. She didn't say anything while we were in the office, but as soon as we got in the van she said, "Mommy, mommy, that boy and girl were being so mean. They hit each other. I will never hit my sisters and brother again." Those are exact words out of her mouth. Now I will guarantee you I am sure her never will not last for very long but at least she is showing an attitude of change.
Now don't think that my children never fight because they fight quiet often, but I can see where they are beginning to look at things differently. So my interesting point is when did this world become so corrupt that we as a society think sibling rivalry is o.k. and that we should just tolerate it. I know in the Bible there was sibling rivalry but there were also consequences. My gosh the one brother got sent out to be a wanderer the rest of his life. Today we just say kids will be kids. With this type of an attitude about family you can see why as soon as the kid is 18 they are ready to leave. I think I had fallen into that trap myself but with just a couple of days of teaching the children how important their siblings are they are beginning to look at each other differently. I know my kids are still going to fight and have problems but what is truly wrong with teaching them to love and respect each other. Look around when you go places and see how children treat each other it is amazing how mean kids can be. Pretty sad.